Monday, 15 October 2012

A fake smile or a genuine one?

Someone wrote this in her Facebook status. Sharing it here...

"Sincerity is rare in the business world. Many pretend to be nice and when people are of no use to them anymore, they don't even spare a thought for them any further. 

People are not stupid, they can tell between a fake smile and one that comes from the heart. We have a responsibility to be sincere with our kindness and friendship. That's when we can sleep well with ourselves."


I found it so true. Death could come anytime, so we should transform our life into Dharma. We have to adopt our everyday life as our Dharma practice. This is the hardest part. This is why they say it is so difficult and challenging to put Dharma as part of our daily life. One does not practice or be spiritual only when you go to the temple, buddhist centre, during meditation or attending Dharma teachings. Likewise being extremely spiritual does not mean being able to chant a few mantras, or just merely offering incense, or clasping one's palm all the time, being vegetarian on special days, or visiting many temples or talking about Buddhist philosophy and quotes all the time..... Practising the Dharma does not mean switching between two modes - the spiritual mode and the worldly mode.  A true practitioner embraces Dharma in his /her daily life, through one's actions and behaviour, whether one is in a temple or in the office. 

Personally it is so much challenging in the business world because the sole motivation is to make lots of money. And often in order to make lots of money or to meet sales target, one has to resort to different tactics, whether it sits well with the other party or  with ourselves. And even if one is not involved in the process, one cannot help but feel, is this the only way we could do things, and carry out our job, without harming the feelings of others and/or at the expense of others?  So how to practice the Bodhisattva way of benefiting others? 
Lama Zopa Rinpoche
My guru, Lama Zopa Rinpoche said, “The essence of the Mahayana teachings is to cherish others, to benefit them with body, speech and mind. His Holiness the Dalai Lama emphasizes that Buddhism is “to not harm others and to benefit others.”.......The two points..... To not harm others: includes all the advice in the graduated path of the lower capable being, and graduated path of the middle capable being in the lam-rim. To benefit others: is the graduated path of the higher capable being.

“One of my students who studied lam-rim teachings did social service for many years looking after handicapped children and children who were difficult to control. She said it gave her so much satisfaction. That means she did it with the proper attitude.


“It is the same when you take care of a family, work in a company, for the government, etc. It should have some effect. It should bring some satisfaction to your life, some fulfillment to your heart. Why does that not happen? Because the motivation in your daily life is self-cherishing thought, working for self. It becomes more like a burden than enjoyment.

“When from the very beginning what you have in your heart is to offer service to others, because others are most important, then of course you enjoy the work because of the pure heart. You see that it is giving you much fulfillment, and bringing so much meaning to your life.

“When a Buddhist does social service (or work) with a good heart, patience, bodhichitta and cherishing others, people feel their warmth, kindness and caring and are always happy to meet them. The student is able to give much peace, happiness, courage, and hope so the other person feels comfortable and relaxed. This is the way to communicate, to help people. You become an example for them to want to develop a good heart and be kind. By making them happy, it is easier to give them advice, explain Dharma, and make their lives meaningful. If you help with a proper attitude you can bring so much light into their lives and the unbelievable opportunity to develop patience, compassion, and bodhichitta; to purify many aeons of negative karma and collect infinite merit.

“It is better to do social service with a good heart than to spend the life practicing in a wrong way, or even trying to meditate on lam-rim or Buddha but only being able to do five minutes meditation and hours being spent in distraction or sleep. In that case just do a very short, good quality meditation and then do something for others. This way you are not lazy and make others happy. You are able to make your precious human life useful for somebody, even if it is not for all sentient beings. They get benefit, and when you see others happy, that makes you happy. So two wishes get fulfilled…”

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