Friday, 30 June 2006

7th Month Hungry Ghosts?

Excerpts from Shen Shian's article:

I refer to the article "Double ghost months send business jitters" featured in "The Straits Times" on 29th June 2006. It was mentioned that "The Hungry Ghost Festival is celebrated by Taoists and Buddhists, who believe that the gates of hell open every year during the seventh lunar month to allow the souls of the dead to roam the earth." Speaking on the behalf of the Buddhist community, there are three major errors in that statement, which require some clarification.

Firstly, Buddhists do not exactly celebrate during the entire seventh month, as the main celebration falls on the 15th day, which marks the Ullambana Festival. Instead of being inauspicious, this is an especially auspicious day for Buddhists as it historically coincides with Pravarana Day, the end of the annual rains retreat in the Buddha's time. On this day, many monks and nuns who have attained enlightenment gather to announce to the Buddha of their spiritual attainments. It is thus also known as "The Buddha's Day of Rejoice".

Secondly, in Buddhism, the gates of hell do not open during the seventh month. The realm of hungry ghosts is distinct from the realm of hells, where suffering is generally without much respite, though never eternal, due to the limits of negative karma. However, hell beings can also benefit from merits dedicated to them to alleviate their suffering. Another distinction to be made is that of wandering spirits, who are beings so attached to their previous lives that they roam our world before finally being reborn. They too can benefit from merits created to guide them to better rebirths.

Thirdly, there is no concept of "soul" in Buddhism, as all beings are seen to have constantly changing consciousness or "mindstreams", and are thus able to evolve spiritually for the better in terms of perfecting their compassion and wisdom. In the above sense, the seventh lunar month should have no bearing of ill effect for fellow Buddhists at all, since we already co-exist with mostly unseen wandering spirits and hungry ghosts in our world, while the realm of hell is another world. However, when we make a fuss out of unseen beings, who are mostly harmless, supernatural incidences naturally seem to increase.

With Regards,
Shen Shi'an (Kong Meng San Phor Kark See Monastery)

Wednesday, 28 June 2006

She nose








"I know my nose is quite small, but I can breathe." - Fann Wong

Tuesday, 27 June 2006

O man!









I know nuts about him
I know nuts about soccer
I know nuts about balls
But I know I just like his looks!

Monday, 26 June 2006

I'm oh, so happy




Daejangguem has ended its nightly re-runs. A little sad I won't be able to watch this actress' splendid performance anymore... but nevermind lah, life has to move on!

Like a Bee Gees song goes...

"You stepped into my life
And I'm oh, so happy."

Lee Young-Ae, Saranghae-yo!!
Kamsahamnida!!!

Sunday, 25 June 2006

Cancerous nut

As the horoscope describes me .... "Cancer is a sign of compassion which embodies all that is best in maternal instincts. Cancerians are vulnerable and easily hurt; the confident mask they wear in public serves as a defence against the rough and tumble of the world."

"You're trying to find your way through a personal maze but there's still a long way to go before you reach your journey's end. In the meantime, save what you can and prepare for future prosperity. And don't make excuses for not going all out to achieve life-long ambitions - you might not have a second chance!"

Ditto.

World cup/s fever ....

Saturday, 24 June 2006

How deep is your love?

This is Bee Gees' "How Deep Is Your Love". This song sounds so right with someone:

I know your eyes in the morning sun
I feel you touch me in the pouring rain
And the moment that you wander far from me
I wanna feel you in my arms again
And you come to me on a summer breeze
Keep me warm in your love and then softly leave
And its me you need to show

How deep is your love
I really need to learn
'Cause we're living in a world of fools
Breaking us down
When they all should let us be
We belong to you and me
I believe in you

You know the door to my very soul
You're the light in my deepest darkest hour
You're my saviour when I fall
And you may not think I care for you
When you know down inside
That I really do
And its me you need to show

How deep is your love
I really need to learn
'Cause we're living in a world of fools
Breaking us down
When they all should let us be
We belong to you and me

Friday, 23 June 2006

Handicap-proof

"Kindness is a language which the deaf can hear and the blind can read."
-- Mark Twain

Wednesday, 21 June 2006

Common sense

"Compassion is what makes our lives meaningful. It is the source of all lasting happiness and joy. And it is the foundation of a good heart, the heart of one who acts out of a desire to help others. Through kindness, through affection, through honesty, through truth and justice toward all others we ensure our own benefit. This is not a matter for complicated theorizing. It is a matter of common sense. - HH 14th Dalai Lama

Friday, 16 June 2006

Do what?

"I am only one; but still I am one.
I cannot do everything, but still I can do something.
I will not refuse to do the something I can do."
-- Helen Keller, Author and Lecturer

Thursday, 15 June 2006

Hither Thither

As Stonepeace said, "Positive feedback is not always good. Negative feedback is not always bad." While praise lets us know where we are already good, blame more readily lets us know how we can be even better. Even if buried within a thousand praises, it is the rare but precious negative feedback that really makes us improve. Thus, more worrying than getting negative feedback is getting none of it! I always pay more attention to brickbats than bouquets. Because they humble me, keep me from complacence, and make me attentive to alternative views. But at the end of the day, we can't always please everyone. Even the Buddha commented that as long as alive, we are subject to the worldly winds of praise, blame (and indifference). What matters is whether we relate to them skilfully, with a balanced equanimous mind. Do they blow us hither and thither? There's no need to sway with the world - we should be steadfast - not so much to be stubborn or unreceptive, but so that we can mindfully and objectively hear the messages blowing in the wind, and discern what's worth learning.

Wednesday, 14 June 2006

Departure







We often read of Christian verses quoted in obituaries in newspapers. I have never seen any Buddhist quotes or verses in obituaries. I wonder why. I don't mind this one.

Nor grain, nor wealth, nor store of gold and silver,
Not one amongst his women-folk and children,
Nor slave, domestic, hired man,
Nor any one that eats his bread,
Can follow him who leaves this life,
But all things must be left behind.

But every deed (karma) a man performs,
With body, or with voice, or mind.
It is this that he can call his own,
This with him take as he goes hence.
This is what follows after him,
And like a shadow never departs.

Let all, then, noble deeds perform,
A treasure-store for future weal;
For merit gained this life within,
Will yield a blessing in the next.

- The Wisdom of Buddha

Tuesday, 13 June 2006

The fall

My mom slipped and fell last night in the bathroom. Scared the wits out of me. I rushed to the bathroom, saw her sitting on the floor sighing with a distressed look. She was worried she had hurt her knee cap (which was operated on few months ago). I quickly massaged for her with ointment. What was worrying was, my mom was supposed to fly off to Bangkok tomorrow night!

The next morning I saw her knee cap a little swollen. Had to bring her to the Chinese sinseh. The Chinese physician said it was nothing serious and she had not hurt her bones. He did commented that my mom is weak on her waist and blood circulation. It explains why my mom always feel her back aching in the morning when she wakes up.

I am real sad to see my Mom getting more frail each day with her medical condition. But I would never want her to miss her holiday trip to anywhere. Why not while she is still mobile? Only God knows how I really wish to bring her on a holiday end of this year, to Korea or anywhere else. I know she wants to go on holidays. Anywhere in the world will be fine. I don't want to wait.

Monday, 12 June 2006

My precious babies

I took leave today just to bring my niece and nephew out for the school holidays. My sis could not take leave as she is in a new job. I asked the kids what they would like to do or where to go. Kids beings kids did not know what they want.

So I brought them to the Disney animated movie "Cars" early in the morning. Being a weekday, the cinema was almost empty and the kids got a thrill out of having the whole theatre to themselves. Munching the M&Ms, my nephew suddenly turn to his jiejie and said "Jiejie, we leave some of the M&Ms later for Mama and Gong-gong ok?" I was surprised at this little gregarious boy's little thought for his grandparents in the midst of the movie. Touching.

For lunch I asked what they would like to eat. Again getting a non-descript answer, I took them to the Japanese restaurant knowing they could not refused tempura prawns. What a feast they had! I ordered a big plate of tempura prawns and they ate their sticky rice with sashimi, chawanmushi, saba fish, eggroll sushi. And to top it all off, from the conveyor belt machine, my nephew picked his chocolate cake dessert and my niece mango mousse dessert. I couldn't described the excited grin that they had for the longest time.

After lunch, I brought them to the roof top garden in the mall because there was a playground there. I watched the kids happily running around the swing, the slides etc, and round the water fountain, watching the huge hot-air balloon high up in the sky. I felt real happy hearing their chatter, feeling the burst of their energy.

After playground, brought them to Toys R Us to see the latest toy offerings. They entertained themselves with all the items of their fancy. I had to buy them each something. My niece chose the Hello Kitty doll house she claimed her mommy didn't buy her last birthday. I told her it is a gift to reward her for being the 4th in class during her mid-year exams. Bought my nephew the basketball with net he has been wanting for quite a while too.

As we strolled through the mall, we came across the shop where kids can choose the comic character they like, and paint different colours on it and spreading the paint evenly, after which it is baked in the microwave oven for a few minutes to dry the picture. The boy chose a nice house and girl chose her princess. I helped them with the paints. They love it!

Tonight, I got this sms from my sis "Thanks u for taking leave to bring my kids out. Think they had a great time. I really appreciate that. Thanks sis."
It made my day.

Saturday, 10 June 2006

They are listening

Good news. My cousin is out of the intensive care unit and transferred to the high dependancy ward. Although she still has not woken up, when they tried to do therapy on her, she did opened her eyes for a few seconds. And she is running a fever now. However, this is still better news than last week. I was slightly relieved. I believe in the power of prayers. I know many people are praying for her, regardless of her religion. So am I. I truly believed the Medicine Buddha heard my prayers and also all the Buddhas. So tonight when I went for my puja, I gave thanks, prayed that she will get better and better and again offered light in my cousin's name.

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Monday, 5 June 2006

Diet!!!

I think I have put on weight due to my gastrics problem. Nowadays I am so conscientious in making sure I take my meals on time, so that my gastrics do not surface again, I ended up eating more. For example, nowadays in the morning, I would definitely ensure I eat a proper full breakfast, whereas last time I used to be able to skip breakfasts. Then at noon sharp I would head for my lunch, when last time, I would sometimes wait till past 2pm or even 3pm to take my lunch. Then again at about 4pm I would eat my biscuits or light snacks in case I go home late for dinner. Last time, I do not have afternoon tea time. Nowadays I would try to rush home by 7pm to 8pm to take my dinner on time. Previously I could afford to wait till even 10pm.

I need to stop this idea of "eating in case" my gastrics problem occurs again. The most effective weight loss for me is when I cut down on my carbohydrates, which means forgoing the rice, noodles, biscuits, bread etc. The first 2 days would be cleansing days which means fruits and proteins only, not even vegetables. On the 3rd day onwards, its pure vegetables and proteins, without carbohydrates. I had to take vitamin supplements for this period. I don't know if it will work or I will give in to my temptations. Hopefully not.

Sunday, 4 June 2006

Karma

Sometimes, when something unfortunate or mildly “unlucky” happens, fellow Buddhists shrug their shoulders and remark sheepishly, “Well, bad karma!” Sometimes they even do it when “it” happens to them. It's interesting how we, at times, speak of our personal karma as if it were an unreasonable third-party that we are exaperated with. We ARE our karma when we are expriencing its payback. Not that you should cultivate a strong sense of self and identification with fleeting karma, but let's accept it graciously in the moment.
By: shiqin

Saturday, 3 June 2006

My cousin

On 22 May, 2 weeks ago, my cousin met with a tragic car accident. And she is still in coma now. My cousin, T, who is 41 years old, had just sent her 3-year-old son to his playschool, when she was knocked by a delivery truck. According to witness, it seemed that the negligent driver was driving past the green light when my cousin was crossing the T-junction.

She was rushed to hospital with serious injuries to her head, left rib cage and hand. She was immediately operated on her brain, as liquid was flowing out non-stop. Doctors had to insert a tube to drain the liquid and then an artificial part of the skull had to be fixed on. Otherwise she will become an invalid. She remained unconscious. One week later they operated on her nose as it was broken. Apparently if not operated on, her eyes would become blind. Her family, especially her husband were on virgil at her bedside in the intensive care unit everyday. Her young son who is very close to her is still not aware what had happened to his mommy.

While I may not be that close this cousin of mine, I know her to be a very caring and friendly person who always has a bright smile for everyone. It would be a waste that such a young person die so tragically. I feel sad for her, for her family, for her young son and also for her 80-year-old mother (who is my aunt - my father's eldest sister).

On 22 May night, I prayed to Buddha that my cousin will not suffer in pain and will wake up fast and recover soon. Last week I went to an impromptu Medicine Buddha puja conducted by HE Khyentse Beru Rinpoche. It came at the right time as I wanted to pray for my cousin badly. Although she is a Christian, I offered light and flowers and made donation on behalf of her.

This evening, I went to the
Medicine Buddha illness warding-off puja in Drophenling. Again I offered candle with her name. I prayed that Medicine Buddha will help her overcome and survive this ordeal. The Medicine Buddha is also known as the King of medicines. He not only serves to heal all sentient beings from their physical illness, but also helps to eradicate all sources of sufferings which main source is – ignorance. By eradicating ignorance, one will be liberated from the suffering of samsara. Because we are not yet enlightened, we succumb to our afflictive emotions and delusions, especially the 3 poisons – greed, hatred and ignorance. In total, there are 84,000 kinds of delusions that we will face; various illnesses and diseases arise due to them, and out physical body suffers under their torments. The Medicine Buddha made a strong wish to liberate all sentient beings, hence, by merely chanting His Mantra, one can not only prevent disasters and natural calamities, increases one’s lifespan, one will also accumulate merits to be reborn in the Pure Land of Medicine Buddha.

I chanted his mantra many many many times tonight. I dedicated my merits gained from this puja to my cousin, may she not suffer any more pain and may she wake up fast. I wish I have the chance to pray for my cousin in her intensive care room, to invoke Medicine Buddha's blessing on her, but we were not allowed to enter the room. I am praying that a miracle will happen soon.

To really see

If only I could throw away the urge
to trace my patterns in your heart,
I could really see you.
- David Brandon
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